REMEMBERING MARY OLIVER

I was taking a news hiatus last week when a friend’s email came, telling me that my favorite poet, Mary Oliver, had died. What an important voice to be extinguished!

The first time I ever heard a poem by Mary Oliver was 1993 in a spiritual study group I was in, when one of the women shared the poem Wild Geese aloud. My dear brother Michael was very ill at the time, and hearing these lines –

“Tell me your despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile, the world goes on…”

…struck me right in my heart. When someone you love is dying, it can feel as if the world stops turning, or that it should stop turning. But, as the poet goes on to say, with infinite gentleness and wisdom,

“Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain

are moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,

the world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -

over and over announcing your place

in the family of things.”

This gentle reminder that even in the midst of despair the world goes on –that even as my heart was breaking, the cycles of nature continued all around and within me - gave me peace. Great art has the power to make us feel as though it’s speaking directly to us. Mary Oliver’s work spoke often through images of the natural world in which she found so much solace and wisdom.

It wasn’t the last time those words would come back to comfort me. Twenty years later, my dear friend Dr. Bob asked me to read Wild Geese to him as he was facing death. Saying the words of it aloud felt like saying a prayer, bringing the peace of that work to both him and me.

Then, there is the poem that has challenged me since the first time I read it: When Death Comes. In it, she says,

“When it's over, I want to say all my life

I was a bride married to amazement.

I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.

When it's over, I don't want to wonder

if I have made of my life something particular, and real.

I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened,

or full of argument.

I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.”

Has anyone ever voiced the passionate love of life more tenderly, or the fear of thoughtlessly wasting it, of being caught fretting at its end without having lived it to the fullest? The longer I live, the more acute and meaningful the poem becomes to me. Like Mary Oliver, I don’t want to have been simply a visitor here on earth.

Though she is gone, her work reminds us to look with wide open and grateful eyes at the endless cycle of miracles the natural world gifts us with – as small as a hummingbird’s egg, as simple as a small stone shaped smooth by water, as comforting as a giant oak tree – and to live boldly in the moment we’re given, knowing that like those wild geese, we too have a place here in the family of things.

WORTH READING/ WORTH WATCHING

Please take a moment out of your busy day to listen to poet Mary Oliver as she reads Wild Geese. You’ll be glad you did.

There’s so much value in connecting more deeply with the natural world, and in learning its languages. Did you know that trees talk? If you’re a lover of nature and particularly of trees, this TEDtalk will astound and delight you:

CLIENT SUCCESS STORIES

“The Joliet Area Community Hospice launched its campaign to raise funds for the expansion and renovation of its in-patient unit on Tuesday. With its “Remembering from the Heart” campaign, the hospice is aiming to raise $3.5 million to add beds, a spiritual room and spaces for family gathering, cooking and dining. The central nursing station will be replaced by nursing cubbies throughout the facility so nurses will be closer to patients.

Mary Sheehan, the CEO of the JACH, said their goal is to continue to provide much-needed end-of-life care for their patients.”

Ohio’s Hospice is expanding their reach:

“A new hospice business is aiming to start service in the Dayton area in February.

The service will be a joint venture between United Church Homes and Ohio’s Hospice and initially be for people living at United Church Homes’ Trinity Community and Trinity Community at Fairwood in Beavercreek and Patriot Ridge Community in Fairborn.”

A MOMENT OF PEACE

Enjoy a sunset at the RiverCove Retreat